22/09/13 – Diary entry #3

Dear Diary,

Over the years ‘Hollyoaks’ by Phil Redmond (Channel 4), has dealt with a number of storylines based upon serious issues, such as, Drug Addiction, Murder, Homophobia and Child Abuse. However, they are usually very dramatically told, sometimes blown wildly out of proportion to make gripping TV but they are based on very real issues nether the less. This week was no exception.

I usually get very involved with ‘Hollyoaks’, sometimes too involved but this week any woman of any age couldn’t help but be affected by such a traumatic storyline. For any of you who don’t watch ‘Hollyoaks’, this week’s storyline centred around four months pregnant Lindsey (Sophie Austin) being hit by a car and then proceeding to lose the baby.

I’ll be the first to admit it was all very dramatic and pregnant women don’t often get hit by cars in real life, however, there was a very real and very deep issue running through the underlying story. Losing a baby is one of the worst possible things for a woman to have to go through. Even an eighteen year old girl, like me, can empathize with Lindsey. It was heart breaking to watch her being told that there was no heartbeat or to watch her take the pills that would take that baby away. You could see the light dim in her eyes and cloudy hazes replace them.

Miscarriage is a lot more common than you may think, with the NHS estimating that more than 1 in 7 pregnancies end in miscarriage and it isn’t widely talked about either. I know of quite a few members of my family have had one or more miscarriages, over the years, when trying to conceive, but because it is a very personal and upsetting situation, many just shut it away and don’t talk about it.

What became more apparent when watching this week’s ‘Hollyoaks’ was the after affect it has on women. Lindsey had a very moving speech in the aftermath, expressing that she couldn’t try for another baby because she couldn’t put herself through it all again and I imagine that thought runs through every woman’s head after such an awful ordeal. How do you pick yourself back up from something like that and try again knowing full well it may happen again?

I was really pleasantly surprised though, to see how the directors had shown the effect on Lindsey’s fiancé, Joe (Ayden Callaghan). In such a distressing situation, all thoughts go out to the woman and rarely do you see the damage it has caused to the partner. It was perhaps worse to see a man, especially such a manly man like Joe, collapse and break before your eyes. To see how he had to remain strong for Lindsey and then when her back was turned, a completely different Joe emerged. A Joe that the audience could sympathize and connect with.

I think we, as a society, should talk about this issue a lot more. It should be talked about at the very first doctor’s appointment of the pregnancy. It should also be integrated into the Sex Education classes at school, so younger teenagers are at least aware and it isn’t left to a television programme, such as ‘Hollyoaks’, to open a young person’s eyes to the trauma of miscarriages.  

Love Emma

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